What is the deal with parents today? Seriously, are they all stupid?
It seems that everywhere I turn, there are parents who are enabling their teenagers' mistakes, mistakes that will cost the kid for a lifetime. They treat drug and alcohol abuse, and premarital sex as a rite of passage.
Parents are moving their daughter's boyfriends into the home with with them, so that their daughters can cohabitate with their boyfriends at the tender age of 15!!!!!?????
Of course, it shouldn't come as a surprise when their teenage daughter comes up pregnant in these instances, but it does. Even then, the delinquent mother or father is excited because "I'm gonna be a grandma!"
HELLOOOOO!!! IDIOT! MORON! YOU HAVE JUST SENTENCED YOUR DAUGHTER TO A LIFE WHERE SHE WILL NEVER GET TO GO TO COLLEGE, NEVER GET TO MAXIMIZE HER POTENTIAL, AND WILL SPEND THE REST OF HER LIFE STRUGGLING TO GET BY FINANCIALLY, POSSIBLY EVEN NEEDING ASSISTANCE FROM THE GOVERNMENT! Seriously, this girl now has an uphill battle in life, and she's not even out of high school yet. Studies show that she might not even finish now... thus relegating her to minimum wage for the rest of her life.
Maybe the boyfriend stays and honors the committment he was not ready to make, maybe he doesn't. Either way, they've got an uphill battle ahead.
And don't give me that "but Leland, the teenagers are responsible for their actions." Between the ages of 12-17, give or take a year or two based on individual development, teenagers brains undergo a lot of changes that are due to puberty, these developments create irrational emotions, unrealistic views of life, and can even render a normal teen insane. Sure, they can make the right decision, but making the right decision becomes next to impossible with parents who are more than willing to point their kids in the wrong direction.
What I'm saying is that when you are 14, you have your first boyfriend or girlfriend (depending on your gender, not your preference). You "feel" all in love, and you're gonna "be in love" forever, and you're going to get married and move to Hollywood and live happily ever after. Take two teens in this mindset, add the hormonal developments of puberty, along with the normal curiosity, move them in together, and you'll have a hard time preventing intercourse. Use common sense! Limit their opportunity to do this, and for Heaven's sake, don't shack them up together.
If you move two teens who "are in love" into the same house, you are not running the risk of teen pregnancy... you have gauranteed it. You, as parent, failed in your role to bring a child up in the way he or she should go, and you will answer for that in the judgment.
Now let's move on to parents who actually provide drugs and alcohol to their teens, and provide "a safe place" for these teens to have drug and alcohol parties. On second thought, let me save this for another day. I'm not in the proper mindset to continue this discussion now.
I've had problems with some who are close to me making this mistake, and I found out that this problem is more prevalent than I first thought. My emotions are further exacerbated by the fact that photos of one of my former youth group members has surfaced on the net, depicting this young person attending a party where alcohol was being consumed in excess, and this individual consuming some.
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While I don't condone what a lot of teenagers are doing, I think much of the blame lies with the parents. But why should we blame them...I mean, it's never anyone's fault that something has happened...good grief.
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